The weak are generally irritable as tigers and easily angry. The strong are usually as calm as water and relatively peaceful. A person who is not strong inside will naturally not be calm enough. A person who is not calm inside will be full of wind and waves everywhere. No matter how small things are, they will be infinitely magnified. A person who is not strong inside will always lack a sense of security in his heart.

How to become a person with strong heart? Not strong enough means being easily influenced by the outside world. It is usually manifested as: either paying special attention to other people's opinions or living in other people's eyes and mouths. Thus, losing independent judgment ability and becoming swaying and restless.

To become a person with strong heart, you need to have at least the following six qualities: 1] High self-discipline and self-deprecating; 2] Must experience despair; 3] Cultivate the ability to be alone; 4] Unlimited thinking; 5] Need a belief; 6] Beyourse1f [Be yourself].

1. Highly self-disciplined and self-deprecating

Why not talk about self-confidence? People who are not confident are generally fragile in their hearts. A confident person is full of confidence in himself, often with positive strength in doing things, and is always full of jī    qíng. All blind self-confidence and empty confidence are self-righteous. You must have real talents and knowledge in your heart, even if you are constantly trying and making mistakes, you can finally reach the day of climbing the peak.

Where does a person’s self-confidence come from? And how to cultivate one’s own self-confidence? A high degree of self-confidence comes from a high degree of self-discipline. What is self-discipline? Self-discipline is to manage yourself and restrain yourself. This is a very important ability. First learn to restrain yourself and use a strict schedule to control your life, so that you can constantly hone your confidence in this kind of self-discipline. Self-confidence also represents the ability to control things. If you can’t even control the most basic time, how can you talk about self-confidence?

In addition to self-discipline, the ability to self-deprecating is also very important. The world is so big that there are all kinds of birds. When you make some achievements one day, many people you know or don’t know will be behind the scenes and discuss right and wrong. From the initial complaints to the arguments taken out of context and even boring criticisms.

Self-deprecating means laughing at yourself and being humorous. Self-deprecating is a way of communication, a state of mind, and an alternative cultivation. Self-deprecating does not appear until someone says you, but requires the ability from beginning to end. You must see through those boring and vulgar people, and you are better at damning yourself than them. When they know they are bored and vulgar, they will leave in shame.

2. Must experience despair

The meaning of experiencing despair is to have passed through this period of time. Perhaps you have not despaired yet, which does not mean that you are not strong, but you must have not experienced despaired people. A life that has not been despaired is an imperfect life. Despair may be emotions, careers, loneliness that cannot be faced, etc.

"Must" is a prefix, an important state. "Must" is not an active choice, but a full mental preparation. When despair comes, accept it calmly and without fear, even if it is extremely painful at the moment, or even lose yourself. Finding hope in despair is a life worth experiencing.

A powerful person is not conquering something, but what he can bear. Only after experiencing some things can you understand the truth and understand the true meaning of life. Despair is not terrible, but what is terrible is losing courage and jī    qíng. Experience despair, but don’t be swallowed by despair. On the contrary, you must overcome it, just like defeating the darkness and welcoming the light.

3. Develop the ability to be alone

Loneliness and being alone are not the same thing, they are different things, and they are often confused. People often regard interaction as an ability, but ignore that being alone is also an ability, and in a certain sense is a more important ability than interaction. If not being good at communication is a weakness of a personality, then being impatient with loneliness is simply a defect of the soul.

You must be able to endure loneliness and not go with the flow. Loneliness is a carnival for one person, and carnival is the loneliness of a group of people. The so-called maturity means that the older you grow, the more you can learn to adapt to everything alone. In the time you are alone, find what you truly love and cultivate your independent judgment ability.

Only when a person learns to love himself first can he have the ability to love others. If you don’t learn to talk to yourself, it will be more difficult to communicate with others. The more you can be alone, the more you can face and understand difficulties, the more you can get along with others. Because you can think from the perspective of others in an instant, and put yourself in the shoes of the other person.

4. No limit thinking

Your vision is farther than others, and your mind is broader than others. A life that calculates every day will sooner or later be plotted by life in the future. In addition, you also live in various small minds and small patterns.

Life is like driving. When you are 3 o'clock faster than others, you feel the feeling that others cannot perceive. Life is like flying a plane. When you are 3 o'oooo feet taller than others, the vision you see is naturally different from others. It means that when you are pursuing higher and farther beautiful scenery, you don't have to care about other people's short-sighted eyes. Everything is naturally calm and will no longer be affected.

After you are broad, you will not be subject to narrow-mindedness. After you, you will not be subject to xíng    shì      zhǔ      yì    zhǔ     yì    zhǔ      zhǔ      zhǔ      zhì.

5. Need a belief

People are too limited. No matter what you believe in, you must have a belief, otherwise there will be no difference from animals.

In this era, almost everyone has faith, but their own beliefs are different. Some believe in power, some believe in money, some believe in self, some believe in love, some believe in happiness, some believe in food, some believe in party, some believe in system, some believe in no god, some believe in god, some believe in god, some believe in many gods, some believe in jī    dū...

No matter what kind of faith, it is worthy of respect, and any faith requires in-depth understanding and belief in it before it can be called faith. Any kind of faith, if it is a confused faith, cannot be called faith and is superstitious, and all religious beliefs, including jī    dū    jiao.

Wisdom and truth have a distance between heaven and earth. Learning to long for truth is better than pursuing wisdom. Truth can make people look at everything in the world more wisely, face the complex interpersonal relationships with tolerance, run on the road of life with extremely firm beliefs, and face the darkness of human nature and the tragedy of the world calmly.

6.beyourse1f〔Be yourself〕

justbeyourse1f. Don't try to please everyone, you can't do it now and in the future.

People cannot cover everything. Everyone should have the person they care about the most, and they are the most precious wealth in your life. If they have misunderstandings or doubts about what you do, it is worth your time to respond and explain.

The following are the three groups that individuals care about the most, for reference only: 1. Family members [not counting relatives, only see each other once a year, and do not know your life position]; 2. Life confidants [one of the few true friends, know everything]; 3. Pastors or mentors [spiritual mentors, and senior leaders in the workplace].

Their evaluations/opinions/suggestions will be listened carefully. If there is no understanding, they will definitely fully explain and respond. Only those who really care about you know you relatively comprehensively, and the other parts are one-sided cognition. There is no special intersection in life, some are just hearsays or just a few encounters.

There is no need to respond to familiar strangers. They don’t necessarily really care about you, they are more just curious about your baby. Time is so precious that you have no time to take care of these, and it is not in the scope of the obligation to explain. Your life does not need to live in the words of others, and there are many more important things waiting to be done.

People with strong hearts rarely care about the opinions of others, including familiar strangers. Just as positive people rarely pay attention to negative information, even if they see it, they will be automatically blocked or digested instantly. They are very clear about their positioning and pursuits.

When you encounter obstacles, you will try your best to eliminate them. When you encounter setbacks, you will not give up easily. When you overcome difficulties, you will have strength. When you solve problems, you will have wisdom. For them, these are just the necessary paths in life.

A truly strong inner person must have a calm heart, a gentle heart, and a wise mind. He must have experienced storms, experienced high mountains and lows, and witnessed various aspects of life. I hope that on the road of life, we can be full of wisdom, strength and courage, and become strong people in our hearts.

"Do" means doing things. If you keep doing things, you will have no chance or time to think about and experience those bad emotions. Once, a boy was in deep pain after a broken heart. His parents suggested that he find a job. He found a job as a programmer. In order to get rid of the pain, he devoted himself to the work and did not rest for both days. Later, he was appreciated by his boss and not only raised his salary, but also promoted to the head of the technical department. In this true story, the boy is a successful example of how to divert his attention and get rid of the pain of broken heart. There are always many unsatisfactory life, but when he faces unsatisfactory, we should firmly believe that there are solutions to any problem. Sometimes, it is up to us to change our thinking and change a way.

Human life is actually a manifestation of energy. When our energy is blocked in this way, we change to another way. When our energy is blocked in this time and space and is not smooth, we might as well start in another place. Our unhappiness and discomfort are the unsmoothness of our life energy, and there is no flow of z쬬¬¬¬¬¬¬¬¬¬¬¬¬¬¬¬¬¬¬¬¬¬¬¬¬¬¬¬¬¬¬¬¬¬¬¬¬¬¬¬¬¬¬¬¬¬¬¬¬¬¬¬¬¬¬¬¬¬¬¬¬¬¬¬¬¬¬¬¬¬¬¬¬¬¬¬¬¬¬¬¬¬¬¬¬¬¬¬¬¬¬¬¬¬¬¬¬¬¬¬¬¬¬¬¬¬¬¬¬¬¬¬¬¬¬¬¬¬¬¬¬¬¬¬¬¬¬¬¬¬¬¬¬¬¬¬¬¬¬¬¬¬¬¬¬¬¬¬¬¬¬¬¬¬¬¬¬¬¬¬¬¬¬¬¬¬¬¬¬¬¬¬¬¬¬¬¬¬¬¬¬¬¬¬¬¬¬¬¬¬¬¬¬¬¬¬¬¬¬¬¬¬¬¬¬¬¬¬¬¬¬¬�
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