Xiaohai, a young man who graduated from university, works as a salesperson in a foreign trade company in Shenzhen. How can he describe his desperate efforts? In the room where he lives, there are instant noodles bags everywhere. He said that in addition to socializing, he either eat fast food or instant noodles. Because he goes to the factory to place orders and negotiates with customers every day, time is calculated based on points. He opened a batch store in his hometown and needs to purchase goods every week. He is too busy. The housing prices in Shenzhen are expensive, so Xiaohai's goal is to buy a house and then marry his girlfriend decently.

The most precious thing in life is what I got from Xiaohai’s bad news last fall. He had rectal cancer and missed the best treatment time because he was too busy with work. His friend visited him and sat next to him, not knowing how to speak.

But Xiaohai sighed long and said, "It seems that God asked me to rest." The friend said, "Yes, you are too busy and sick, so you should have a good rest."

As soon as the words were spoken, my friend felt that it was inappropriate. Xiaohai said: "I made a lot of money and realized that this was not happiness. Now I always remember the days when we were studying, playing basketball, going shopping and watching movies together in violation of school rules. Those days were really happy."

Bai Yansong once said this: A child who has been pursuing education since childhood is terrible when he grows up. His growth process not only loses laughter, but also after he enters society, if he becomes a leader, he will ignore the employees' own feelings and regard the employees as a simple labor force. If he is an ordinary person, he will be demanding on himself and let himself spend his whole life in the so-called struggle, and he will not understand until his death. What he did in this world? Has he laughed? Have he ever enjoyed happiness?

Yu Juan, 32 years old, is from Jining, Shandong Province. She studied at Shanghai Jiaotong University and obtained her doctorate degree from Fudan University. She then went to Norway to study. After returning to China, she worked at the School of Social Exhibition and Public Policy of Fudan University. This overseas returnee doctoral degree once tried to spend three and a half years to order a Norwegian master's degree and a Fudan University doctoral degree. However, the doctoral degree was not a master's degree after all. She worked hard and eventually failed to achieve the goals she set for herself, and was so angry that she was so angry.

In December 2oo9, Yu Juan was diagnosed with breast cancer and died of illness four months later. Before her death, she expressed her feelings in her blog: "When the critical point of life and death, you will find that working overtime in Japanese goods will put too much pressure on yourself and the need to buy a house and car are all clouds. If you have time, accompany your child well and buy a pair of shoes for your parents. Don't try your best to change a big house. Being with the person you love, your home is warm."

There is a story circulating in the West: "When three merchants met God after they died, they discussed their achievements in the world. One merchant said: "Although the business I run was close to bankruptcy, my family and I didn't care, and we lived a very happy life." God gave him 5o points.

The second businessman said: "I rarely have time to stay with my family. I only care about my business. You see, I was a billionaire before I died." After hearing this, God kept silent and also gave him fifty points.

At this time, the third businessman spoke: "When I was in the world, although I was busy making money every day, I also tried my best to take care of my family. My friends could talk to me. We often negotiated a business when we were fishing or playing golf. How interesting life is when we were alive!" After hearing this, God gave him a score of 1.

A philosopher once said: When climbing a mountain, don’t forget to appreciate the scenery around you. If the purpose of work is to make money, the purpose of making money is to invest, and the purpose of investing is to earn more money, you will only bow your head and climb the mountain on the way to climb the mountain, completely forgetting the purpose of life. For life, what is the most important thing? Perhaps only when you are in twilight and want to bid someone else’s world, your heart is as gentle as the wind, and you will remember your life, and you will know what is the most precious thing in your life.

There is no if in life, and fate does not believe in assumptions. "Because of the cause, so there is so, since it has become, why bother say it again?" Forget what you have lost, cherish what you have, and what will happen in the future depends on today's efforts. No one can blame a hard-working life. No matter what kind of life it is, as long as you do your best, you should have no regrets and no "if".

There is no if in life, and fate does not believe in fate. Assuming that the mud can grow lotus, poor families can cultivate filial sons, and the furnace can be refined into steel. Dilemmas can make great men. Bitterness can brew sweetness, and troubles can turn into Bodhi. Life is like waves, with troughs and peaks. At peaks, sing slowly. When in troughs, there are no need to cry. One wave after another, one wave after another is the other side of life.

Everyone must remember that we must obey a rule, without anyone exception, which is called self-inflicting. Everyone must bear all the responsibility for their own behavior. It is useless for you to push others, and you cannot push them away, and no one will bear it for you. No one can harm you, no one can save you, and it is useless to appreciate you, and it is useless to hit you. Everything is self-inflicting. This is the law of life that we need to understand.

The eight-character policy of being a human being: faith, cause and effect, conscience, morality. The eight-character policy of doing things: gratitude, tolerance, sharing, and relationship.

In the big stage of life, no matter who it is, it is impossible forever to have a smooth road of flowers. There will always be thorns and bumps. When we are in good times, we are prepared for danger in times of peace and the road will last long. When we are in adversity, we stick to hope to get out of the predicament. No matter what, we are the protagonists in our own life movies. The arrangement of destiny has become a helping factor for our cultivation. We have good thoughts, adhere to faith, promote positive energy, be grateful to the people around us, and gain purity and joy.

If there is no responsibility in love, love becomes selfish. If there is no restraint in love, love becomes easy to indulge. If there is no equality in love, love becomes a kind of charity. If there is no respect in love, love becomes an autocracy. If there is no joy in love, love cannot become true love. If love cannot be open and upright, love is the embodiment of sin.

It only takes enough to have it. If you only have one watch, you can tell what time it is now; if you have two, it is difficult to determine. If you only have one lover, you can love each other wholeheartedly. If you have too much, you will be entangled. In the end, you will be empty. If you can eat good food, you can nourish your body, and if you eat too much, you will hurt your stomach. You don’t need to be too happy, just pursue too much happiness. If you are tired, you will be tired of your body and heart. No matter how much happiness you are, it will be a burden.

Sometimes we mistakenly think that what we cannot get is precious, and what we already have is cheap. What we cannot get is just a beautiful illusion, showing us a gorgeous appearance. If one day you are close to it and know the truth, you will realize that it is so similar to what we have. Don’t keep your eyes on your imagination. What you have is your happiness.

What makes people most tired is often not the far away of the road, but the depression in your heart; what makes people most decadent is often not the bumps in the future, but the loss of your confidence; what makes people most painful is often not the misfortune of life, but the shattering of your hopes; what makes people most desperate is often not the blow of setbacks, but the death of your soul; so we should take everything lightly, let go of our hearts, and everything will gradually get better.

The ups and downs of our daily lives will inevitably affect the people around us; moodiness is destined to destroy others' trust in ourselves. Therefore, knowing how to be a human being is sometimes more important than knowing how to do things. Even if you don't know how to deal with others, at least you must learn to control your emotions, and not let your emotions control yourself.

Life is a turbulent river. In the short passage, we have encountered dams, mud, sand, or storms. These obstacles and difficulties, hardships and pains may become reefs in our hearts. However, when we face them bravely, we will appear. Those scars from the past will make the rivers of our lives flow wider, farther and more clearer.

When I learned to endure pain, I was always worried that my mistakes would be pointed out by the teacher in class. It was just because my little self-esteem could strongly feel what shame was. However, I, who was naughty by nature, could never help but be scolded by the teacher with a grudge, so I shed tears, sadness, and even complained to the teacher. As time went by, when I grew up and understood more, I realized those harsh criticisms - "Sit up straight", "Why can't I change the careless problem?" "The words should be written horizontally and vertically, because you are Chinese" but it seemed so friendly, because my good image and habits won praise from my friends.

So, the once small pain became the current wealth.

During my growth, I faced the scene of parting with friends who have been together for three, five, or even ten years many times, and I couldn't help but burst into tears every time. When I slowly explored in a new environment, the pain of loneliness would quietly climb into my heart. However, as my friends kept blessings and encouragement, I gradually understood the principle that a gentleman's friendship was as light as water, and I knew more about cherishing and protecting these hard-won friendships.

So, pain taught me the truth about dealing with people.

In all the separations, the passing of relatives will make people more confused and despaired. Seeing the familiar life coming to an end, the ups and downs and happiness experienced in my memory will come to my heart again in the heart-wrenching cry. However, in the endless memory, we also understand that the dead are gone and the living are gone. Therefore, learn to cherish the living life around you more, and walk bravely with the dreams of leaving relatives.

So, pain taught me how to walk in this strange and distant society, and gave me the belief to move forward forever.
Chapter completed!